I’m presented with many opportunities throughout my day to practice my “moving to the right” philosophy. Just last night, while doing some research on vertical gardening, I ran into a blog of a young woman who just graduated from Mechanical Engineering school, and while in her first year of employment became accurately aware of the incongruities of how she was spending her time and what she really cared about (totally resonated with me). So…she made a change. She was laid off, which helped, but she chose to not go back into that life…at least right away…and now is travelling, blogging, and just exploring her interests and passions.
OK…here how I reacted (simulalated timeframe: approximately 10 seconds to get to self loathing…another 5 minutes to return to admiration):
- Admiration (5 sec): Wow – that is so cool – good for her! I’m going to follow her blog, she is inspiring!
- Jealousy (1 sec): Damn…how lucky is she…I wish I would have done that…(day dreaming inserted here)
- Anger (2 sec): Wait a minute…Why doesn’t she have to play the game and get a real job like the rest of us?
- Regret (1 sec): I had that same realization when I had started out…I was compromising and I knew it…but I did it anyway
- Self Loathing (1 sec): Ugh…why didn’t I do something different back then? Was I too fear driven? What was wrong with me?
- “M2R” PRACTICE (4 min): OK…Breathe…Create Space…GET OUT OF THE PAST…take the focus off of MYSELF and put it back on HER. What can I learn from this/her? Remind myself that I’m grateful for the experiences I’ve had, and mostly, for the people in my life, and my choices to date have made both of those possible.
- Gratitude & Acceptance (1 min): Honest gratitude for the life I have and acceptance that I made the best choices I knew how to make back then…and I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be professionally.
This is just one example of how I can take a simple random encounter and almost instantanously jump into a “pain and suffering” loop. These things happen fast, and they past fast, but I am trying to recognize them when they are happening and redirect my thinking – to make a habit of it.
Life Lessons: Gratitude is Powerfull Tool & Self Acceptence sometimes hides in Uncomfortable Places